Shirin Peykar LMFT
Narcissistic Abuse
Narcissistic Abuse may be emotional, mental, physical, financial, sexual, and/or verbal abuse from an individual with Narcissistic Personality Disorder traits. Abusers use manipulative tactics to invalidate their partner's sense of reality, their experience, and their emotions. Having been a surviver (and thriver) of narcissistic abuse, I understand your experience. I can help you uncover what made you attract such a partner, what about you was appealing to a narcissist, and the patterns that have replayed from the past.
Our work together will support your healing from the core so you are no longer caught in the dance of self-sacrifice and entitlement whether you decide to stay or leave.
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Couples Therapy
One of the most sought out desires in life is to love and be loved. At the same time, relationships can take the most out of us because they require self-reflection, commitment, and patience. However, spending time enhancing your relationship can be what it needs to flourish or work through a crisis.
Shirin incorporates The Gottman Method, which includes a thorough assessment of the couple relationship and integrates research-based interventions based on the Sound Relationship House Theory of Drs. Julie and John Gottman.
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Divorce
The termination of a marriage is often a time of immense grief and loss. We begin as two, with hopes and dreams that are shattered when the marriage ends. There are many difficult emotions to work through as each stage of grief is visited.
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Shirin can provide support through amicable or high-conflict divorce.
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"Let's Talk Divorce" Support Group
Helping you Avoid it, Supporting you Through it, Empowering you After it
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Purpose: A judgment-free support group for anyone contemplating divorce, in the process of, or already divorced or separated or going through a significant breakup. Having a safe space to work through the journey of separation is key to rebuilding a new, meaningful life.
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During the first hour, we will explore a new topic pertaining to divorce/separation. In the following hour, group members will be able to freely process an issue they are experiencing with support or advice from others in the group.
Our group topics open your mind to think about the past, present and future using Cognitive Behavioral Therapy + Mindfulness techniques that will enable you to reach a place of acceptance.
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Every Tuesday from 7 - 9 PM
Sherman Oaks Office
Led by Shirin Peykar, LMFT
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Mindful Parenting
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Shirin incorporates RIE® Educaring principles in her interventions for parenting infants through toddlerhood. She helps families learn to slow down, to pause more, to give space for some ‘being’ rather than caught into patterns of habitual reactivity when parents feel triggered by their children.
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Benefits of mindful parenting:
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You become more aware of your feelings and thoughts
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You become more aware and responsive of your child’s needs, thoughts, and feelings
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You become better at regulating your emotions (especially when triggered)
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You become better at responding rather than impulsively reacting.
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Your relationship with your child will improve
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With the help of Shirin's services, a mindful family can create the foundation for children to become secure, cooperative, confident, aware, focused, inner-directed, cheerful, and peaceful.
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Therapy Approach
Schema Therapy: Schema Therapy is an evidence-based approach for creating change in the personality dynamics of individuals with chronic emotional and relationship problems. A schema is a stable, enduring negative pattern or thought about the self or the world that forms during childhood/adolescence.
The goal of schema therapy is not to eliminate schemas. Rather, the goal is to help you get your core needs met by enhancing the Healthy Adult coping mode so your schemas are triggered less frequently and less intensely and you can recover more quickly.
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Mindfulness Therapy: Mindfulness is simply being aware of ourselves. This means being both internally and externally attuned, without the filters of thoughts & emotions. I may use Mindfulness techniques as an adjunct to other orientations of therapy, providing individuals with a metaphysical/spiritual element to our therapeutic work. The components of mindfulness interventions are:
1) refocusing on the present, 2) observing thoughts + emotions,
3) observing ego, and 4) meditation practice.
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RIE® Educaring: Respect is the basis of the Educaring® Approach. This respect is extended to infants, viewing children as individuals, and not as an object. The goal of this parenting approach is raising an authentic child. RIE Principles are: Trust in the infant's competence, Sensitive Observation, Child Involvement in caregiving activities, Predictability, Consistency, and Uninterrupted Play.
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Gottman Method Couples Therapy: The Gottman Method is an approach to couples therapy that includes a thorough assessment of the couple relationship and integrates research-based interventions based on the Sound Relationship House Theory of Drs. John and Julie Gottman.
The goals of Gottman Method Couples Therapy are to disarm conflicting verbal communication, increase intimacy, respect, and affection, remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy in conflicting situations, and create a heightened sense of empathy and understanding within the context of the relationship.
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